well worth the wait

“Be patient, brothers, till the coming of the Lord. And look, the farmer’s waiting for the precious fruit out of the...

patience as wisdom

There was a great and mighty king who had many peasants working for him in his kingdom. One of the peasants rebelled a...

patience, passive and active

I was recently stuck in line at the car rental counter behind a guy who appeared to have never rented a car before in ...

patience as a spoke on a wheel

You’re supposed to be somewhere.  You didn’t leave on time, or maybe you did.  You didn’t plan for mishaps, or...

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Mussar is a discipline of steady personal character refinement. 
Our Mussar Master, Messiah Yeshua taught us how we should bring good fruit as a demonstration of our purposeful lives.  Mussar is one important component of being a disciple and light of Messiah.

You are the light of the world.  A city that sits on the mountain will not be hidden, nor do people kindle a lamp just to put it under the bushel measure, but on the menorah, to illuminate all who are in the house.  So also, shine your light before sons of men, so that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father who is in heaven. (Matthew 5:14-16, DHE)

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daily-walking
  • during the week...

  • gather - once or twice with your chevruta (partner) for study
  • repeat - the memory verse of the week
  • be aware - of behaviors during the day, moments that elucidate middot work
  • after sundown on saturday night...

  • finish - journal entries for friday and saturday and score yourself in your charts
  • assess - your scores in your journal charts by tallying them and reflecting on the results
daily-stairway
  • in the morning...

  • meditate  - on the middah for the week
  • repeat - the memory verse of the week
  • be aware - of behaviors during the day, moments that elucidate middot work
  • in the evening...

  • journal - positive or negative moments related to the weekly middah
  • account -by filling in your daily or chesbon hanefesh chart

middah of the week

03-order

Bring order in life, one step at a time.

Order gives structure to our days and environment so as to maximize our ability and effectiveness. However, order can be demonstrated in unhealthy ways. Order out of balance can either appear completely obsessive and neat to a fault, while on the other end of the spectrum a total lack of order appears as chaos and disarray. Those who embody order have actions, possessions and tasks all of an orderly nature – everything has a set place and a set time.

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    rabbi derek leman mussar: vigilance against wrongdoing
    Written by rabbi derek leman

    Do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in Gehinnom. -- Matthew 10:28

    We who believe in God and desire to be changed can be our own worst enemies. We know that his mercy outweighs his judgment and we imagine that therefore his judgment is canceled. There is a concept in Judaism that God’s compassion is holding up the world, the only reason it continues without being destroyed.

    Written on Friday, 24 May 2013 12:00

    rabbi derek leman mussar and the garden of eden
    Written by rabbi derek leman

    How many hours every day go into fixing, cleaning, upgrading, improving, reconfiguring, and maintaining the things and aspects of your life? You commit so much time, thought, and effort because you are born with an impulse to improve.
    -Alan Morinis, Everyday Holiness, ch. 2, “What is Mussar?”

    Written on Friday, 03 May 2013 13:16

    rabbi russ resnik A generous heart
    Written by rabbi russ resnik

    The theme of nadiv lev, a generous or noble heart reverberates throughout Parashat Vayakhel, and really throughout the entire account of building the Mishkan [tabernacle] in Exodus 25 through 40.

    Written on Sunday, 10 March 2013 07:12

    rabbi derek leman mussar: parts of the soul
    Written by rabbi derek leman

    art-ruachThe neshammah (lifebreath) of man is the lamp of Hashem, revealing all his inmost parts (Proverbs 20:27).

    The lamp pictured is an ancient oil lamp, a clay vessel with a wick placed in olive oil giving light like a candle. The inmost parts literally are the “rooms of the belly.” There are two basic points made in this verse: God has a light inside each one of us and he sees all that is within.

    Written on Tuesday, 26 February 2013 09:44

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